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Question: Couple seeking singles and/or other couples

Dear Lounge Advice,

I need a viagra source since my Doctor discouraged me to use it as my blood pressure is good. He seems to think that only people with high blood pressure have ED.

Mr. Uandus2knight

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

Hi,

For legal reasons we can not directly provide pharmaceutical advise or connections for where to acquire/purchase drugs or enhancement supplements.

Try going to the Forum and reviewing our "Ask the Doctors, and Other Medical Related Topics " area.
You can also start your own topic there.

Obviously if you "Google" viagra there are many online resources to order it or similar products…but this is at your own risk to do so.


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Question: Shy but Sensual

Dear Lounge Advice,

I am relatively new in the lifestyle. Admittedly, I'm shy, but I hope to meet friends, travel partners, companionship, maybe even a bf as well as sexual partners.

It's intimidating, so do you have any suggestions for being more active?

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

Hello & Welcome :-)

Make sure to include in your profile's descriptive areas, Type of playmates we are interested in areas and Additional Questions…. exactly what you are looking for.

POST NEW PHOTOS OFTEN. Doing this will insure that your profile is being viewed often which will increase your profile's exposure to other members.

Get active in the Forums…it is yet another opportunity and resource to get yourself out the in front of our members.

Read the profiles….they usually state if what they are looking for for play.

- Use the SEARCH feature(on the top main tool bar) to set up search parameters for what you are looking for and browse member profiles in your area. You can specifically search for Female Sexual Preference….enter Bi-sexual

-Contact via mail or Wish List the members you find that you are interested in meeting with.
SAY HELLO :-)

-Look at the WHO'S ONLINE area ( Top menu bar)
-Post a Booty Call ( See top main menu)

-Try our CHAT/IM features to contact and meet other members.

GET TO AN EVENT NEAR YOU….this is by far the best way to meet someone in your area.

There are numerous tools and features for you to find other members


Good luck in your search :-

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Question: Let’s have fun!:)

Dear Lounge Advice,
I am just getting into the lifestyle and have been fortunate enough to meet a handful of great couples. However, I am a solo male and am finding it a little difficult to meet a solo female. I am considered good looking, positive and have no difficulty socializing/making friends. I’ve never had trouble picking up girls in the vanilla world but I’m finding it difficult here because I don’t really know where to start besides sending messages to women on the site. Is there a designated place for singles to find other singles to build friendships so we can fit in with other couples? Or am I going about this all wrong? Lol
Any suggestion is much appreciated. Take care!

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

On finding an eligible female who is interested in joining you for lifestyle fun, please consult the advice archives. This is a very common question that you will find a lot of feedback on already in the archives.

To get your real seal, somebody has to have met you. If you have already met an LL couple/single female in person… you can ask them to seal you:-)

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Question:

Dear Lounge Advice,

We are new to this lifestyle, we made a profile which we thinks is well done and tasteful. I feel like we are both attractive but have not had much interest at this point. What else should our profile entail to entice people.


Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

Your profile and your photos are fine.

The more active you and your profile are on the site the more views you will most likely receive.
The more views you receive the more like other members are to reach to contact your profile.

Try changing your profile photos often.
Also try participating in the Forum/CHAT,Contests and most importantly..attend some events in your area and let people get to know you in person.

Don't sit around waiting….look at other members in your area and contact them. If you think a profile looks interesting and might be someone you want to get naughty with make the first move and drop them a mail expressing your interest in them :-)

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Question: Single guys and  guys with passes  couples for Her

Dear Lounge Advice, my girlfriend and I are in a open cucking type relationship and I (male) really like it when she dates and plays alone. The question I have is I get upset when she becomes good friends with them. She is dating a old friend from high school now and was close then and is reconnected as friends again. I'm not upset about her having sex but I feel that boundaries should be established about how close the relationship becomes. She says she needs the connection to enjoy sex with others, I understand that.
We are having trouble with a happy medium. Any advice? Thanks john

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

Hi John,

I wish there was a "perfect" answer for you on this but every relationship is it's own unique egg.

"open" or"cuck" relationships can always be a little tricky and take an extreme amount of trust and security in your relationship between both of you to function in a healthy fashion.

If a "cuck" partner of yours/hers is starting to make you uncomfortable then you need to express those feelings to her and be vocal about it and agree on what is acceptable or not in your relationship with this person.
You both have to honor and protect each others feelings to make this work for the best.

It sucks having "guidelines or boundaries" when exploring and participating in sexual fantasies/adventures but with out some basic ones in place between you two things can easily spiral out of control and your relationship with each other could end up in jeopardy as a result.
Our simple rule in the lifestyle is "Us first….all others second!" If one of us is not happy then both of us are not happy. WHATEVER it is that is making one of us not happy means it has to stop or it is time to take a break from that person or couple until the emotions are talked about and resolved to continue.

And our happiness together is more important that any one individual or experience or thing in life.
I hope that makes sense.
But that is what works for us… you have to figure out what works for you two.

Agree with each other to be able to talk openly and honestly about anything at any time.

Just remind her that YOU need to be reminded and re-assured that you are "#1" in her life no matter who she is "cucking" with or exploring a deeper friendship with.
Those little constant reminders usually will help put your mind at ease if you are feeling a little uncomfortable or jealous about a friendship that is starting to feel a little bit "too friendly".

Both of you should always be able to immediately walk away from or cut off anything lifestyle related that is causing your relationship unneeded stress or emotional discomfort.
Talk to each other more about this situation and lay down some emotionally protective guidelines that you both can agree with and live with" while still allowing you both to have fun.

You/She/WE comes first…always…agreed ! :-)








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Question: Confident and secure couple seek like minded

Dear Lounge Advice,

I'm looking to spoil and shower my hot, fine-ass husband with a fantasy fulfillment he couldn't even wrap his head around… me and TWO sexy, hot, bi-curious females to engage in a fun and exciting one night stand (unless we're hooked! Haha) that NONE of us will ever forget and yet, remember FOREVER!!

We're an attractive, fit, outgoing couple but we're relatively new to the LS and have NO IDEA how to find what we're looking for.

Looking for solid advice. I want to make this happen!!

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

Well husband sounds like he is in for one hell of a treat :-)

Be patient…trying to get two couples on the same page is hard enough.
Trying to find 2 bi-curious females to join you to please you husband will take some time and leg work to put together.

First make sure you include what you are looking for in your profile descriptive areas and be specific about who and what you are looking for.

If you have any "lifestyle" friends that you are attracted to you could start by networking with them. Maybe they can help you with your fantasy or know some bi-curious singles who might be interested in that kind of fun.

Start contacting members or couples on LL in your area to let them know who you are and what you are looking for and see who responds.
There are lots of couples where the female is allowed a "Hall Pass" to play alone or with others.

Consider attending a major lifestyle orientated Resort, Event, Cruise or local party.
THESE ARE EXCELLENT areas of opportunity to put together "Fantasies on the Fly" as many of the people who are attending are looking to live out their own fantasies or help others enjoy their







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Question: Sexy gent for couples, singles play

Dear Lounge Advice,
Single guy here. Best ways for me to get invited to lifestyle events?
Thanks

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

You need to get your account certified with the real seal certification along with your membership to gain access to our Events area on our home page.

If you already know another certified LL couple or single female connect with them and ask them to assist you with getting your account certified.

If you do not know any LL members try searching for couples or females in your area using the Search Feature or Who's Online and see if any of anyone would be willing to meet up with you to help you get certified.
Even if it just for coffee, dinner or cocktails….no strings attached.



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Question: Yes! We shall knock em dead.

Dear Lounge Advice,where can I find a dictionary for all the abbreviations used by members? For example HWP and DDS

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

There is a link titled"
"Looking for a lifestyle term or definition?"
located that the bottom of our Advice area :-)

Click on Advice on the top menu bar…then keep scrolling down to the bottom.
You will see the link located there.


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Question: looking for fun

Dear Lounge Advice,
We are a couple that have been trying to get into the lifestyle for a few years. However there is a few problems. I am fully bi and our whole reason for going is so I can find more female interaction. I am not interested in trying another guy in any way.
My hubby fully supports my search for a girlfriend or play date, but it's more to see me happy. He's not pushing for a three some but will participate to please me.


It seems like the only way I can get my girl time is if I go against my wishes and play with a guy.
Is there any hope for me to have my fun with out compromising or is it just a fantasy?

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

There is always hope:-)
When meeting or attending events you should always be open and specific with others about what you are looking for.
We don't recommend "taking one for the team" just to find,explore and enjoy your bi-female wishes.
That seems to always generate or leave negative feelings in the mix.

Make sure you desires are CLEARLY posted on your profile descriptive areas.

Currently your profile scans that you are a couple seeking other couples w/ bi females.
As of right now there is nothing stating that you are actively looking for female/female only bi experiences.

The more direct you are on your profile the less mis-understandings there will be for other people viewing your account.

Also…consider posting b00ty calls looking just for this specific experience.


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Question: Hot babe with luscious & tight pussy. Dripping wet

Dear Lounge Advice,

I have had several nice couples and men contact me, having newly joined. I have not been physically attracted to several of them. I'm not sure how I should respond?

Also, I've been to one swingers party several years ago, and plan to start attending events soon. How do community members usually indicate they don't want to play with someone?

Thank you

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

Hi,

We strongly feel that if someone took the time to reach out to you.. .and by doing so is extending to you a nice compliment.. that they deserve at least the respect of an answer.

We are all big boys and girls here… and the best thing to do is to be direct without having to go into details.

We suggest using something as simple as, "Thank you very much for your nice email, but at this time I do not think that we would make a very good match."

END OF STORY.

If they respond as to, why? (Which most will NOT) simply say, "Please respect our/my decision"
THAT IS IT… no explanations are required !

Be short.. sweet.. .and to the point !

The same applies at actual events that you might attend.

Just tell the couple/person that if it's play that they're exclusively seeking, then you wish them well.
But if it's a friendship without expectations of play, then you'd love to hang out with them.
With this scenario, you can either avoid them or be direct.

We prefer being directly polite so as not to hurt feelings.
This way, they will not keep a candle burning for you.

Think of when you were single on the dating scene. How did YOU turn down advances?
It's really no different here.
Use what was successful when you were single as long as it's not hurtful.

If they get offended or upset, that's their cross to bear, not yours.

Show deference with you honesty and you will be doing the right thing:-)





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